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Creative ThinkingNLP

Are you sitting comfortably?

March 10, 2015 — by Daryll Scott0

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(You may not be sitting, and either way, are you comfortable?)

Just out of interest; how do you know?

Are you assuming or did you check?

If you checked; where in your body did you check? Did you scan your whole body? What did you notice? And if you didn’t notice anything at first you probably have now. How will you respond to what you have noticed? If you notice discomfort do you move or do you helplessly accept it? If you notice tension do you let it go? Whatever sensations you notice, do you pay closer attention or do you ignore them? Do you make adjustments or do you tolerate them?

Did you label the feeling by giving it a name; did you explain it to yourself? Or were you able to just experience it?

If you hold tension or endure discomfort; what’s going on there? Is it habit? Is it inconvenient to move? Are you concerned about what others will think if you move suddenly or strangely?

Did you feel nothing? Not even the bottoms of your feet? How is that possible? Have you been decapitated?

I often often draw people’s attention to their feelings and ask them what they notice. When I do so I’m not looking for evaluations like ‘tired’, ‘depressed’, or ‘comfortable’. These are not feelings they are linguistic labels; and often value judgements (carrying an implicit sense of good or bad). They do not contain any precise sensory information. Describing your feelings in this way will prevent you from really feeling them. I would invite you to feel a little more precisely; to fully experience your kinaesthetic system. Examples of sensations may be ‘tightness in my shoulders’, ‘tension in my jaw’ or ‘a knot in my gut.’

If you are able to notice your experience, to assess how you are getting on in the moment based on physical sensations (not just thoughts) you have access to a somatic intelligence that can be developed to become your greatest ally.

NLP

Human Science

February 9, 2015 — by Daryll Scott0

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I’ve always been confused about this…

Why study that which is average when you could study that which is exceptional?

Why not look for the outliers and the exceptions to the rule that broaden your thinking – not just the conformities that narrow it?

NLP

Top 10 Simple Coaching Questions

January 7, 2015 — by Daryll Scott0

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I thought I would share these – none of the tricky ‘jedi language’ here, just the simple questions that can sometimes be profound.

I’m not sure how well they work in writing – please have a play and let me know…

For getting to the problem:

  • What do you want? So what prevents you from just doing that?

For challenging negative thoughts:

  • How do you know?
  • What do you have to ignore in order to think that?
  • Is that true? Is it really true?
  • When is it not true? When is it not relevant? When is it a good thing?

For provoking realisations:

  • How will you be in 10 years if you don’t change anything?
  • How specifically have you failed to overcome this challenge in the past?
  • What would you do if you had no problems?
  • What is your unconscious ‘gut feeling’ telling you now that you are ignoring, but you will know it was right in a year from now?
  • What’s the one thing you can do now, that will make all other things better/easier?

Creative BusinessNLP

From individuals to organisations… The problem is how we think about the problem…

July 15, 2014 — by Daryll Scott0

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People are organic, complex, interdependent and in constant flux – but we think of people as robotic, simple, independent and consistent.

Similarly organisations are organic, complex, interdependent and in constant flux – but we think of them as robotic, simple, independent and consistent.

The problem is how people think about the problem.

Are you with me?

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Will you follow me down this garden path?

July 12, 2014 — by Daryll Scott0

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None of us live in the real world – we live in our own individual ‘map’ of the world.

Sensory information (especially what we see and hear) is corrupted and constructed before we get conscious access to it.

Our ‘maps’ cannot be right or wrong, they can only be effective or ineffective; helpful or unhelpful.

Our problems arise from the difference between your conscious ‘map’ of the world and how the world really is.

Your conscious thought processes are not the answer to your problems – they are the cause.

Other people’s opinions are even more violently unhelpful.

Any personal intervention that attempts to make changes through conscious ‘understanding’ is a bad joke.

Just love and laugh.

Are you with me?

Creative BusinessNLP

Expertise

April 9, 2014 — by Daryll Scott0

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Before you employ an ‘expert’, ask yourself…

If you were given a choice of two pilots, one who had passed the test but never flown alone, and another who had flown thousands of hours but never bothered to take the test, which one would you choose to fly with?

Would you rather go to see an NLP Master Practitioner who has attended loads of workshops but not done any change work, or an NLP Practitioner who just has the first level of qualification but has practiced diligently through hundreds of hours of real change work?

What if, instead of asking what courses they have spent money on, and what pieces of paper they have collected, you ask what they have done and what they can promise to do?

Creative ThinkingNLP

A Method for Deep Reflection

September 23, 2013 — by Daryll Scott0

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Letting your creativity bubble up!

I invite you to spend the next few weeks developing the ability to quickly access a state of deep reflection that will allow you to become consciously aware of ideas bubbling away in your unconscious.

Thanks to Dr. John Grinder and Dr. Stephen Gilligan for influencing my thinking in relation to consciousness and effective meditation/trance experiences.

You can do this for as little as 5 minutes a day, 15 minutes would be great – integrate it with your routine –in the office alone early in the morning, a train journey where you can feel comfortable, just before you go to sleep at night – anywhere you can have a moment to yourself.

This is a meditation, or self-hypnosis, in a way that is creative and precise.

Repeat each task as many times as you need to until you have achieved the conditions described; then move on to the next task.

Task 1:  Breathing

Breathe in deeply and hold for a second; then breathe out deeply and wait for a couple of seconds before breathing in again.

Do not push the breath out; just allow the air to fall from your body by letting go of all tension. Allow the out breath to be twice as long as the in breath.

Do this breathing exercise for 5 minutes without interruption. Imagine the air swirling in, around and out of your body. Notice your ‘state’ changing as you continue to breathe deeply.

Repeat this task until you can breathe deeply and evenly without effort, and without tension or fluctuations in the breathing.

If your attention goes to the conscious narrative: “What’s going to happen in the meeting this afternoon? What’s my bank balance? Has the rent gone out? What did he/she mean by sending that email? – That’s fine, allow these thoughts in and let them swim around a bit, just continue to pay attention to the task.

Task 2:  Expanded visual attention

Set up the breathing pattern as per step 1; breathing deeply and evenly without tension or fluctuations in the breath.

Become aware of something that you can see in front of you. Then, without moving your eyes, become aware of something you can see to your left, and then, again without moving the eyes from the centre, become aware of something you can see to your right.

Become aware of all three things simultaneously; the thing to your right, the thing in the centre and the thing on your left.

Continue to pay attention to your breathing throughout. Repeat this exercise until you can hold the expanded visual awareness – continue to pay attention to the breathing.

Task 3:  Body scan

As before, set up and maintain the deep, even breathing. Set up and maintain the visual attention on 3 things simultaneously.

Then, maintaining the two previous conditions; slowly begin to scan your body from your toes to your scalp paying attention to anything you can feel. When you notice a feeling, simply notice the qualities of it. If you become aware that it would be more comfortable if you moved slightly, then move. Let go any tension by becoming curious about how it would feel if the tension were just a little bit less. Once you have managed to reduce it a little bit, you will be able to begin to let it go more and more.

The intention here is that, with practice you can gain awareness of your kinaesthetic senses – it is important not to label the feeling. Just hold it gently in your awareness.

Task 4.  Practice a state of curiosity

As before: Breathe – 3 point visual attention – body scan, and then become deeply curious about what your unconscious will begin to show you…

What will pop into your awareness? What pictures? What thoughts? What feelings? Be patient. Do not control or guide the process. Become the observer.

Let go of all opinion or judgement; it’s not good or bad – just be curious, “Why that thought? Why that image? What is it showing me?” Be more and more curious…

This is like using a ‘mantra’ in meditation, but far more ambiguous and utilising everything as relevant. Simply repeat to yourself the words “Show me more…”

5. Introducing the creative challenge

Breathe – 3-point visual attention – body scan – curiosity – then introduce the creative challenge and check for changes in the breathing, or feelings.

If you notice changes to the smoothness of the breathing, or feelings of tension, move the creative challenge away and re-establish the breathing, and relaxation. Then introduce the creative challenge again.

Continue until the creative challenge can be introduced and your physiology remains free of tension.

Continue to be curious – Think, “Show me more”

You may notice – for many creative challenges, that a variety of ideas and alternative approaches will begin to emerge at this stage – or you may choose to add another condition…

6. Working on the creative challenge

To gain more flexibility and push the boundaries, be curious about the consequences of changing your own attitude in relation to the challenge:

Playfulness:

Imagine being more playful – cheekier – funnier – more energetic – more alive – more enthusiastic – more extreme

Self-Determination:

Imagine being more determined – more committed – clearer – more confident – calmer

Openness:

Imagine being more open – less defensive – gentle – accepting – frank – positive – affectionate – transparent

As soon as you have reflected on all three for a few minutes each, cycle between them – more open, more self-determined, more playful… etc.

Please share your comments / experiences below…

NLP

UNIMPOSSIBLE INTERVIEW

September 11, 2013 — by Daryll Scott2

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Here’s an example of some fairly miraculous change on the part of my client. She has a strong background in NLP patterning, hence her ability to make such profound changes so quickly.

Gemma kindly agreed to shoot a video interview that tells the story from her perspective. It’s 6 minutes long and well worth watching to the end.

I would like to make it clear that I do not usually work with ‘bad backs’ – if you contact me with a back problem I am likely to refer you to one of my talented friends. I only took this case because all other options had failed the client.

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Next time you ‘lose it’ a bit…

September 2, 2013 — by Daryll Scott0

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Next time you ‘lose it’ a bit… Ask yourself one simple question:

Where is the inflexibility?

Invariably you can only lose your cool when there is a boundary that is being threatened. It’s your inflexibility that makes it a problem for you.

Maybe it would be good to be more flexible about it – and maybe not.

Either way it’s helpful to be aware of the thing that you are defending, then you can decide whether to let go, loosen your grip or dig your heels in. Here are a few example inflexibilities:

I need to be in control
I don’t want to be told what to do
I won’t take a step backwards
I don’t want to take the risk
I’m not ready
I can’t leave a job after only 6 months
Everyone has to agree
I’m not prepared to move
I need to be seen to…..

In many cases, being aware of your inflexibility can provide more choice of how to go about getting what you want/need.

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Not getting what you want?

August 28, 2013 — by Daryll Scott0

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Not getting what you want?… Here’s one simple question… What prevents you?

People often tell me what they think that they want. Sometimes it’s accompanied with some physical incongruity or tension – Eg. They may be speaking in the positive whilst their head is shaking, or they may speak with excess tension and extra adjectives – “I’m absolutely, definitely going to do it”.

One of the reasons I dislike conscious goal setting is that people create such bad goals consciously – too influenced by other people or not aligned with their own intrinsic motivations.

Also – if they are conscious of their goal, and it’s congruent, then they would already have it. People rarely tell me about the things they want without tension or incongruity – because when there’s no tension they tend to get those things without any excess effort or drama.

So, when someone is able to articulate what they want (or to be more precise, what they consciously think they want) one simple response is, “good for you; do that then.”

And then comes the ‘but…’

Another way to get to the ‘but’ is to ask, “What prevents you?”

They have to go looking for the feeling or thought process that pops up to obstruct their action. If you can elicit and overcome the obstacles, the you have a chance of succeeding without relying upon effortful, exhausting and un-sustainable will power.

BUT – Here’s the thing… The chances are that the ‘but’ is there for a good reason – so work with it instead of fighting it.
What’s the intention in the ‘but’?
Make sure that intension is satisfied one way or another.

NLP

The difference that makes the difference in NLP

June 13, 2013 — by Daryll Scott0

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I’m often asked, “What makes a great NLP change agent?”

I have trained over 150 Practitioners of NLP, and many of them – although they had a great time on the course, learnt techniques, gained new awareness, challenged their beliefs, got loads of personal value – still didn’t really ‘get it’. At the other extreme, some took to it like a duck to water and their abilities had little to do with my training; I was simply a tour guide for discoveries they already knew intuitively.

I’m having a mini-integrity crisis and asking, can you really train NLP in a workshop?’ You can run a great course that blows everyone’s mind and they think it’s great value for money, but are we really inducting the awareness, understanding and instinct of a great change agent?

There is an observable difference, and it’s the topic of my next book. It’s as if the people who pick it up quickly think differently to the others.

Thinking about thinking is a particularly messy paradox*, – and that’s not a good description to use because I have no idea how another person thinks and I’m becoming more and more unsure about what thinking is**.

So to be more precise; most people seem to pay attention to the world in a different way to me. I’m beginning to get an idea of the difference. Let’s play a game:

Pick a manmade noun in your immediate vicinity. It can be anything; a chair, a pen, a bag; select something that you interact with.

Now define it. Answer the question ‘What is it?’ – describe the seemingly static qualities – dimensions, colour, texture, weight etc. What do you use it for?

Notice what processes of thought you evoke to answer the question. How does it feel – easy or difficult? Logical or imaginative? Focussed or a daydream?

Now ask a different question about the item; ask yourself ‘How?’

How do you interact with it? Think of all the small unconscious movements that are required to interact with it. How many different ways could you use it, and how would that work? How did it come to be here? How were the component parts manufactured, harvested, assembled? How many people were involved in getting it here? How many places did it pass through on it’s journey? If it’s a labour or energy saving device, how much labour and energy was required to get it here? How could it be better? How could you remove friction?

Again, notice what processes of thought you evoke to answer the question. How does it feel – easy or difficult? Logical or imaginative? Focussed or a daydream?

Somewhere in there is the answer to the question.***

*Logical type – Thinking is both the set (the activity) and the member of the set (the specific topic that you are thinking about).

**‘What is thinking?’ is a plug-and-play question that comes with a deeply unhelpful type of attention already installed. ‘What it is’ presupposes it’s a static thing, but it’s not a static thing, it’s a process. ‘How do we think?’ is a far more helpful question.

***Can you go one step further? – to remove the undefined label ‘think’? It’s not a thing, and there is such a variety of different processes that you would call thinking, and those different processes, the different qualities of thinking, don’t have names. Can you think of processes that you don’t even have a word for and then ask ‘how’?